For the past few weeks, I’ve been mulling over this issue about why, some women do not seem to respect and support other women. In my 42 years, I haven’t met one woman, regardless of age or race, who hasn’t had an issue with another woman at some point in her life! As grown women, we all have a tendency to “size” a woman up when we first meet her and depending on what we determine about her, our judgment effects how we relate to that woman. Now this makes sense of course, I mean, hey we do that with everyone, male or female, right? It’s called human nature.
But what I’ve come to realize is that some women have a seemingly automatic “dislike” button that gets triggered when they’re around other women, particularly ones they don’t know. Some give off a vibe that says “I’m only going to be so friendly with you, so don’t expect anything more!” And then you have other women who will smile and laugh and chop it up with you on numerous occasions and then will completely flip the script and talk about you behind your back.
Now I get that sometimes you meet someone who you just don’t vibe with. Hey, it could be the wrong day, or that time of the month, (don’t judge, we’ve all been there!) We’ve all got our own personal stuff that we carry with us on a daily basis, and when we come into contact with other women, particularly women who have different personalities than ours, sometimes we just don’t connect on a sista girl type of level. But that does not mean we should allow ourselves to be juvenile and petty. If you are a grown woman, can you please remember this and let your actions reflect that??
It’s perplexing to me, especially the older I get, when I see women allowing petty jealousies, misunderstandings, and personal issues to stop them from supporting one another and advocating for each other. For example, to this day women in professions such as teaching, law, engineering, medicine, etc, are still not met with the same level of confidence nor do they receive equal compensation as men do in those same professions.
What frustrates me is the fact that we know this continues to be a serious issue, yet, why is it that there are women who are more than qualified and deserve to be promoted and receive fair compensation, but are passed over and not recognized by their female supervisors?? Why are some women threatened or intimidated by other women who possess leadership qualities?
It’s a damn shame really. As women, we have to fight for every little thing. The expectations, responsibilities, obstacles, stumbling blocks, hurdles and hardships that we face are at times insurmountable. Yet we survive. We thrive. We keep our families going. But we need each other to do it! Where and why have we lost sight of this? As women, we know what each other faces, so why are we not doing more to advocate for issues that directly effect us?
What are we teaching our young girls? Because I tell you many of our young girls are not growing up witnessing a sisterhood. What they see right now is a bunch of individuals concerned with themselves. And to be real, there are some issues that as women in this country we have to deal with together otherwise we will look up and find that another 10, 20 yrs have passed and we are worse off than we are right now. WE need to support each other, whenever, however and in whatever way that we can.